Ending Relationships

Recently I saw a post on facebook stating:

"Stop being mad at people that you find out have wronged you. Just call it exposure. God has exposed them. Thank Him for it! Man this was confirmation for me today!"

This post coupled with Adele's "Hello" call attention to our interpersonal relationships.While I do not want to make this blog religious with the mention of God, I think this message is very relevant. Throughout our lifetime we have many relationships, platonic and romantic, and some of them are bound to end on bad terms. As a result of relationships that end on poor terms we may feel slighted, angry, abandoned, bitter, happy, hurt, and many other emotions. Sometimes we may even feel as if we are a failure due to the ending of the relationship and I think this quote can help with that notion of being a failure.

The quote begins with suggesting we stop harboring negative feelings toward those whom you have transgressions with. For me this is extremely difficult as I tend to hold grudges for a very long time. Then the quote goes on to state you have seen the person for who they really are. We often can be misled by what a person portrays themselves as being instead of who they really are and when we see them for who they are we sometimes don't like it. Be kind to yourself and realize that at one time you thought the person was someone that you wanted to include in your life based upon limited knowledge but when you saw THEM for THEM is when it didn't work out; therefore, it's not a failure, it's a learning experience.

Remember that everyone you encounter is for a reason and only stay in your life for a season. Sometimes that seasons can be brief, but in some cases that season can be your entire life if you are so lucky. In our pursuit to break barriers, many of our barriers are our interpersonal relationships and it's important to view the ending of relationships with others as not failures but learning opportunities and gained experiences.

What are your thoughts or feelings about ending relationships?

BB